Got really into gaming again with the new console
Wife gave me grief at first but honestly after the kids go to bed, an hour with the headphones on playing competitive multiplayer is the best decompression ever. I'm not a serious gamer but there's something about it that just lets me zone out. Feel like I'm finally doing something just for me and it's keeping me sane.
An hour after bedtime is reasonable. You've earned that decompression time. The key is just being honest about it and not pretending you're doing something else. My wife was weird about gaming too until she realized it was my mental reset button.