Advice: how to handle a shy kid in social situations?

Jan 17·1 min read

My 5yo is super shy. Clings to me at birthday parties, won't participate in activities, cries if we try to push him. I'm not forcing anything but I'm wondering if there's a better way to help him get comfortable? Or should I just let him go at his own pace? He starts kindergarten in the fall and I'm honestly a bit worried. How have other dads handled this?

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KKevinRegularJan 18

At 5 it's pretty normal honestly. Some kids are just more reserved and that's okay. I'd focus on making sure he knows you're not disappointed or frustrated, because kids pick up on that and it makes the shyness worse.

PPabloNew DadJan 19

Also depends on the activity. My shy kid will participate in structured games but won't jump in with unstructured play. Maybe look for birthday parties with organized activities instead of free play.

PPedroRegularJan 18

Our pediatrician told us the worst thing is when parents draw extra attention to it like 'oh he's shy' in front of other people. That just cements it in the kid's mind. Try introducing him to one other kid before the party starts if possible.

RRyan M.New DadJan 20

My oldest was like this at that age. The thing that helped was not forcing it but consistently putting him in situations where he could watch other kids have fun first. After a while he wanted to join in. Don't make a big deal out of the shyness.