My youngest just started kindergarten. Logically I'm pumped - more free time, she's excited, this is a milestone. But also like... she's not a baby anymore and I'm weirdly grieving that?
Is this just me being sentimental or do other dads feel this way too? Not looking for the "cherish every moment" speech, just wondering if I'm normal lol
Take some photos and videos while you still can. I didn't and I regret it more than I expected to.
It's 100% normal and you're not alone. Just because something is good and happy doesn't mean you can't feel sad about what you're losing. Those feelings can exist at the same time.
The free time thing is weird because you think you'll be stoked about it but honestly it just feels empty sometimes. That's okay to admit.
Your youngest will still need you in different ways in kindergarten, just different than before. The sadness fades once you find that new normal.
I felt this hard when my oldest started school. The free time was nice but I missed the everyday stuff with her during the day. It gets easier as you find your rhythm.
Sign in to join the conversation.
My therapist called this grief and she was right. You're grieving a stage of parenting even though the next stage is great. Both things true.