Like every single day. "Why do we have to die?" "What happens when we dream?" "If I think about thinking am I thinking?" It's actually amazing but also I'm running out of answers that don't sound stupid. Anyone got good resources or am I overthinking this?
Not overthinking at all - this is legitimately cool. There are books for this age about big questions. "Big Questions for Little People" might help. Otherwise just engage with his thinking and admit when you don't know.
"I don't know but let's think about it together" is a perfect answer. You don't need to have all the answers. Just be willing to wonder with him.
You're definitely not overthinking this. This phase is incredible for their development. Some good books about answering hard questions for young kids exist but honestly just talking to him is the best resource.
This is totally normal and actually awesome. Encourage it. You don't need resources - just engage with the questions genuinely. 'Hmm, that's interesting. I wonder...' is enough.
The 'if I think about thinking am I thinking' one got me lol. That's actual philosophy. Your 4yo is basically doing what philosophers do.
That's actually a sign of a smart kid. The constant questioning phase is annoying but it means his brain is developing normally. Keep answering honestly - you don't need to have all the answers, 'I don't know, what do you think?' works great.
My 5yo did the exact same thing and honestly I just started saying 'that's a great question, let's look it up together' and we'd Google it. Sometimes the answers are simple, sometimes they lead to weird rabbit holes.
That's amazing and also exhausting 😂 It means he's smart and curious. "That's a great question, what do YOU think?" is your friend here - turns it back on them.
My 4yo is the same way and honestly I just lean into it. We have weird philosophical conversations while doing dishes. It's kind of beautiful even when I have no idea how to answer.
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Books like "The Big Book of Questions" are good but honestly just follow his lead. These conversations matter more than having perfect answers.