Why do people act like your kid's grades are YOUR fault?

Jan 19·1 min read

Got a note from the teacher that my 10yo is struggling with math. Which okay, fair enough, we'll work on it. But then got comments from two different family members about how "we need to make sure he's studying" like... I'm doing my best? He does his homework, we quiz him, I got him a tutor. At what point is it just his responsibility to care? Anyway rant over. Anyone else deal with this?

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Comments(5)

BBenny R.RegularJan 19

I think teachers just approach it from the angle of 'what can we do together to help this kid improve' not blaming you personally. Did the note have specific suggestions for how you could help at home?

AAlex R.New DadJan 19

Are you working with him on math at home or planning to get him a tutor? Sometimes kids just need the extra attention in one subject and it makes a huge difference.

DDerek M.New DadJan 20

Kids have different strengths. My oldest struggled with math until sixth grade and now it's his best subject. Sometimes they just need time to click with how it's taught.

CChristopher T.New DadJan 21

The tone matters a lot. If the teacher was being accusatory that sucks, but if they were just giving you a heads up then they're on your team trying to help your kid succeed.

TTom R.RegularJan 21

Teachers can be weird about this sometimes. But honestly if your 10yo is struggling with math then yeah you should probably be helping them study or getting a tutor. It's not about fault, it's about fixing it.