The Instagram problem nobody talks about

My 13yo got Instagram "just to see what everyone was posting" and within like two weeks she was comparing herself to filter-heavy pics and seemed more anxious. I didn't force her off but we talked about how the algorithm works and she's actually taken a step back. But here's the thing - I don't think I would have caught it if I wasn't casually checking in. I'm not spying, just... present? And I think that matters more than any parental control app ever could.