The phone conversation we finally had

Our 13yo has been dropping hints about 'everyone else has a phone' for like a year. Last weekend we actually sat down and I asked HER what she thought would be a good age and what she'd need to prove first. Turns out she had actual thoughts about it - wanted to start with limited texting only, worried about addiction, had questions about privacy. We're not getting her one yet but I'm impressed she wasn't just 'gimme phone now.' Might revisit this in 6 months. Honestly the conversation was way more valuable than just saying yes or no would've been.