The TikTok obsession is out of control

Jan 21 min read

So my 14yo has gone full TikTok addict. She's on it constantly, and now she's trying to become a "content creator" which basically means filming herself lip syncing for 6 hours a day. I've set screen time limits but she just works around them. I'm worried about the algorithm stuff, the comparison trap, body image issues - all of it. But she also feels like this is her social life now and if I cut it off completely we're heading toward a big fight. I'm genuinely lost on how to handle this without being the bad guy who ruins everything for her.

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TTerrence J.RegularJan 2

14 is such a vulnerable age for this stuff. Have you tried sitting down and watching some of her TikToks WITH her? Sometimes understanding what she finds funny helps open dialogue instead of just shutting it down.

BBrad N.RegularJan 4

The algorithm is literally designed by engineers to be addictive. It's not a character flaw on her part, the app wants her attention. Maybe frame it that way instead of blaming her for the obsession.

GGrant C.RegularJan 3

Mine is 15 and same problem. I set a hard 2 hour limit per day for social media and she hates it but honestly her mood improved once she wasn't doom scrolling until midnight.

BByron S.RegularJan 4

The content creator dream is rough because there's literally no money in it unless you hit millions of followers. Have you looked at what her actual engagement numbers are? Might be good for a reality check conversation.

EEric W.New DadJan 4

Try getting her interested in something that requires her hands. My daughter started pottery and suddenly TikTok became background noise instead of the main event.