How do you handle when your kids call you out for being hypocritical?

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AlexNew Dad

1w ago1 min read

So my 8 year old caught me losing my temper at another driver today and later asked why I yelled when we talk about controlling our anger at church. I had no good answer and felt like a total failure. I tried to explain that adults mess up too but man, it hit different coming from my kid. Anyone else struggle with this? I want to lead by example but I keep falling short.

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DDerekNew Dad1w ago

This is the stuff they don't tell you about in parenting classes. You have to admit when you're wrong. It's uncomfortable but it teaches them a lot about accountability.

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JJoshNew Dad1w ago

Eight is old enough to understand nuance. I'd explain that you're working on controlling your temper but sometimes you fail. Shows them you're human and also that growth is a process.

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CCarlos M.New Dad1w ago

Oh man, this one hits hard. My kid did something similar and I just had to own it. I told her that grown-ups mess up too and I was sorry. It actually made her respect me more, not less. Hardest conversation I've had as a parent so far.

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