How do you teach kids about sexual purity without being weird? | DadHQ

How do you teach kids about sexual purity without being weird?

3w ago1 min read

My 12 year old is getting to that age and I want to have the talk but I want to frame it biblically without making it awkward or shaming. My parents never talked to me about this stuff and I turned out okay I guess but I don't want my kids fumbling around in the dark. Anyone have resources or advice for how to approach this conversation in a way that honors God but also doesn't traumatize my kid?

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CChristopherNew Dad3w ago

We framed it around respect - respect for their future spouse, respect for their body, respect for God's design. Made it less awkward to focus on the bigger picture than just the mechanics. My son actually asked good questions after that.

SSam Y.Regular3w ago

Honestly, books can be your friend here. Finding one that's biblically aligned but written in plain language took a lot of pressure off for us. Then we just made ourselves available for questions after.

TTony V.Regular3w ago

Man, I get it. I've got three boys so I'm gonna be having this conversation on repeat. Frame it around respect and self-respect rather than fear, and you're already ahead of the game. Your kid will appreciate you being the one to talk about it.

NNoah B.Regular3w ago

I think the key is keeping it factual and non-judgmental. My kid asked me straight up at 11 and I just answered honestly without the shame part - that helped way more than making it this big awkward thing.

RRonRegular3w ago

Storytime approach has worked for us. Start with age-appropriate books that talk about it, then let them ask questions from there. Takes the pressure off you doing a big dramatic 'the talk' and makes it more natural.

MMatteoRegular3w ago

At 12 it's about being honest and not weird. I told my kids the truth in straightforward language and then added the values layer. They need to know what's real before they hear it from friends at school anyway.