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My 7yo asked me why God let his goldfish die and I had no idea what to say

1w ago·1 min read

So my son's goldfish died yesterday and he asked me point blank why God would let that happen. I fumbled through some answer about God having a plan and heaven and stuff but I could tell he wasn't satisfied. I'm not even sure I was satisfied with what I said. Anyone else dealt with these questions from their kids? I want to teach them faith but also be honest that some things hurt and don't make sense.

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DDannyRegular5d ago

That's a really tough moment. Honest answer - I don't think there is a perfect response to that question. I'd probably tell him that sometimes sad things happen and it's okay to feel sad about it, and that his goldfish mattered because he loved it. Kids need to learn that death is real and grief is normal.

BBrianRegular5d ago

Those are the hardest questions. I think you're okay admitting you don't have all the answers. Something like 'I don't know exactly why, but I know he was a good goldfish and you took care of him and that mattered' - keeps it simple and true without the heavy theology.

SSean P.New Dad1w ago

Man, that's a tough one. My son's still little but I know these questions are coming and I'm gonna be just as lost. Sounds like you did fine just being honest with him about it.

TTony L.Regular1w ago

I think just being there while he asks the hard questions is what matters most. Kids are resilient and they remember that their dad showed up for them when it was tough.

BBrandonNew Dad6d ago

I fumbled through something similar with my son. The best thing I found was just sitting with him in the sadness instead of trying to fix it with theology. Seven year olds don't need the deep philosophical answer - they need to know you get why they're upset and that you're there with them.