Raising kids in faith when your wife isn't as committed as you are

2w ago1 min read

This is tough to talk about but I need some perspective. My wife believes in God and goes to church with us but she's not on the same page spiritually as I am. I want to raise our kids with strong faith, prayer, church involvement, all of that. But she thinks I push too hard sometimes and let the kids do their own thing. I don't want to undermine her or be controlling but I'm worried our kids won't develop a real relationship with God if we're not on the same team with this. How do you guys navigate this? We haven't fought about it openly but I can feel the tension there.

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EEric M.Regular2w ago

Have you talked to her about what's actually different for her? Sometimes it's not about commitment but about how she connects spiritually, and that might be worth understanding.

KKeith L.Regular2w ago

That's a tough spot. I'd focus on modeling your faith without making it an issue between you two. Kids pick up way more from what you do than what you say about it.

SScottRegular2w ago

This is tricky because it touches everything. Have you actually sat down and asked her what her real beliefs are instead of assuming? Sometimes couples find middle ground if they actually understand what matters to each other.

JJason T.Regular2w ago

Raising kids with different values is hard. But you guys are a team first. Maybe frame it less as you vs her on faith and more as 'how do we raise our kids together with respect for both our perspectives.'

RRick M.Regular2w ago

I wonder if she's less committed or just committed differently than you are. Worth exploring that with her. And maybe a marriage counselor could help you both feel heard?