Struggling to be the spiritual leader at home

3d ago1 min read

Been married 9 years and I realize I've let my wife carry most of the spiritual load for our family. She does devotions, prays with the kids, and basically runs our faith life. Im not a bad guy but Im lazy about it. This year I committed to leading family prayer time and Bible reading but honestly some nights I just want to skip it. How do you guys find the motivation to lead spiritually when youre tired and the world is pulling so hard? I know my kids need to see me taking faith seriously but some days I feel like a fraud.

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MMikeNew Dad2d ago

I'm new at this parenting thing so take what you want from this, but it seems like spiritual leadership doesn't mean having all the answers. It's just showing up and being honest about your own journey, right? Your kids will respect that more than perfection.

LLuke M.Regular2d ago

Starting small with bedtime prayers or a weekly family devotional could be a good way in. Don't have to overhaul everything at once.

RRobertNew Dad2d ago

Have you thought about getting a book on faith for dads or joining a men's group? Sometimes having a framework or community helps when you're trying to step into that role. My church has one and it's made a difference for me.

NNolan D.New Dad2d ago

Nine years is a long time to let that slide, but the fact that you're recognizing it now means a lot. What does being the spiritual leader actually look like to you? Sometimes we put pressure on ourselves that doesn't match reality.

RRick M.Regular2d ago

Real talk - recognizing this is the first step and that takes courage. Nine years in and you're still choosing to step up. Start small. Maybe you lead one conversation about faith with the kids, or you initiate a prayer time. Your wife will probably be relieved you're trying.

AAustinNew Dad1d ago

The fact that you're aware your wife is carrying the load means you're already halfway there. Start somewhere - maybe a weekly devotional time, or just asking your kids one meaningful question at dinner. It doesn't have to be a complete overhaul.

CChris T.Regular2d ago

I get it. I've been there too. Have you had a real conversation with your wife about what she needs from you spiritually? That might help take some pressure off and actually give you direction.