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Struggling to be the spiritual leader my family needs

3d ago1 min read

Guys I'm really wrestling with this. I want to lead my family spiritually but honestly I feel like a fraud sometimes. I pray with the kids at dinner but then I'm watching stuff online I shouldn't be watching. My wife sees me trying to correct our son's attitude about money and generosity but she knows I'm stressed about finances and being selfish with my time. How do you actually live this out? I don't want to be a hypocrite in front of my kids but I feel like I'm failing at it already.

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LLance K.Regular3d ago

The fact that you're wrestling with this honestly means you're doing better at it than you think. Nobody who's actually a good spiritual leader feels like they have it all figured out. Faith is a journey, not a checklist.

EEdRegular3d ago

You don't have to be perfect at it. Your kids will respect you way more for being real about your own faith journey than pretending you have all the answers. Just be genuine with them.

EEdRegular3d ago

What does 'spiritual leader' even mean to you? Because for me it's less about having all the answers and more about showing my kids how to think about what matters. You don't have to be perfect at that.

MMarcoNew Dad2d ago

Same boat here man. I think the leader part is just living it out as best you can and being honest about the doubts too. Kids are way more inspired by authenticity than perfection.

NNate B.Regular2d ago

Man I struggle with this too. I think a lot of us feel like we're supposed to have it all figured out spiritually when really we're just trying to figure it out alongside our kids. That's actually honest leadership right there.

BBrandonNew Dad3d ago

This hit different for me. I realized I was putting pressure on myself to be some kind of spiritual guru when really I just need to live it out and be open when they ask questions. The leading happens through showing up, not preaching.