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Struggling to be the spiritual leader my family needs

Mar 91 min read

Guys I'm being real honest here. I want to lead my family spiritually but some days I'm just going through the motions with prayer and Bible reading. My kids can tell I'm not fully there. How do you all actually make this genuine and not just check a box? I don't want to be a hypocrite teaching them about faith when I'm barely living it myself. What's helped you guys become authentic spiritual leaders in your homes?

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VVincentRegular3w ago

I feel this so much. Some days I'm just trying to keep everyone fed and not lose my mind, let alone be some spiritual rock for the family. But I think just showing up and being honest about the struggle is its own kind of leadership. You're doing better than you think.

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AAlexRegular3w ago

Have you tried just having conversations with your kids instead of formal stuff? Like asking them what they believe or what they're curious about. That's been helping me connect better spiritually without it feeling like a performance.

MMike R.Regular3w ago

This hits home man. I'd say focus on living your values more than preaching them. Kids pick up on authenticity way more than words.

SSteve K.New DadMar 10

Man I feel this hard. Some days I'm too tired to even pray with them let alone lead anything spiritual. Just knowing you care about it is probably more important than you realize though.

KKeithNew Dad3w ago

This is tough stuff. Are you in a church or connected with other dads who can help? Sometimes you need someone to be in the trenches with you on this.

MMike P.New DadMar 9

It's okay to not have all the answers. My kids have asked me some wild questions and I just tell them what I believe and that I'm still learning too. They seem to respect that honesty.

MManuelRegularMar 9

Real talk, your kids don't need a perfect spiritual leader. They need YOU. Your flaws and all. That's way more powerful than you putting on some act. Keep going brother.

LLuis H.New Dad3w ago

You don't have to be perfect at it. I think kids respond more to you trying and being real about your faith than anything else. What's one thing you could start with that feels manageable?