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Struggling to lead by example when I lose my temper with the kids

1w ago·1 min read

Been a Christian for 15 years but lately I'm realizing my kids see me getting angry over stupid stuff like spilled milk or them not listening the first time. My 7yo asked me yesterday why I pray before meals but yell at dinner and honestly it cut me deep. I know I need to work on this but it's hard when you're tired from work. How do you guys handle that frustration in the moment? Do you just excuse yourself or what? I want them to see Christ in me not just hear about Him.

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CCarlosNew Dad1w ago

A Scout leader once told me it's not about never getting angry, it's about what you do after. Sounds like you're aware of the gap between your values and your actions, that's the first step to changing the pattern.

DDan T.Regular1w ago

Being honest here, my boys have seen me blow up over dumb things too and I hate it. The fact that you're recognizing it means you're already ahead of the game. Keep working at it and apologize when you slip up, they notice that too.

MMatt W.Regular1w ago

That's a tough one, brother. I'm still figuring out this whole fatherhood thing myself but I know I lose it too sometimes. Maybe some deep breaths before reacting to the small stuff? Kids learn from how we handle our own emotions.