Struggling to lead by example with my faith

1w ago1 min read

My kids are old enough now to call me out when I'm not living according to what I say I believe. Lost my temper at a coworker yesterday and my oldest asked me later why I was being mean when I'm always telling them to treat others with respect. He was right. I apologized to him and explained I'm not perfect and that I'm trying too, but it made me realize I need to actually walk the walk better. Feels convicting but in a good way.

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JJustinRegular1w ago

This one hits different. My oldest called me out last month for complaining about work stress while telling him to have patience and gratitude. Took the wind right out of me. Are you working on anything specific to bridge that gap?

SScott M.Regular1w ago

Man, this hits different when they're old enough to really see through the BS. I'm in the same boat. Been trying to be more intentional about showing up for what I actually believe instead of just saying it.

RRyan M.Regular1w ago

Your kids calling you out is actually a good thing. Means they're paying attention and they care. Just own it when you fall short and keep trying. That's the example right there.

SSam F.Regular1w ago

Man, that's a tough mirror to hold up but it sounds like your kid is helping you be better. Just own it, apologize when you mess up, and keep trying. They're watching.

AAntonioRegular1w ago

The fact that you're even thinking about this and recognizing the gap shows you're already ahead of most. Kids see us mess up and then see us work to do better, that's the real lesson.

SScottRegular1w ago

Man that's tough but also kind of a gift that they care enough to call you out. Shows they're paying attention. What area are you feeling the biggest disconnect in?

CChris M.New Dad1w ago

The real test is admitting when you mess up in front of them. I started saying sorry more often and explaining why I'm trying to do better. Sounds basic but it actually means something to kids.

KKyleRegular1w ago

Yep. They see through the BS so fast. I started trying to show it in the small stuff like how I treat people at the grocery store or how I respond when things don't go my way. Small changes add up.

RRobertRegular1w ago

That's actually a good sign though. Means they're paying attention and they care. It's uncomfortable but those moments are where real conversation happens. I try to own it when I mess up instead of making excuses.

SScott M.Regular1w ago

Leading by example is hard because we're all imperfect. I think the win is acknowledging it when you mess up and showing them how to get back on track. That's the lesson they actually need.

KKyleRegular1w ago

Yeah this hits different when they get old enough to notice the inconsistencies. I've been trying to just be honest when I fall short instead of pretending I've got it all figured out. Kids respect realness.