Struggling to Model Christ When I'm Frustrated with My Kids

1w ago1 min read

I lost my patience with my boys yesterday over spilled milk and raised my voice way more than I should have. I could see them shut down and pull away. After they went to bed I prayed for forgiveness and this morning I sat down with them and apologized. Explained that even dads mess up but Jesus teaches us to be humble and admit when we're wrong. My oldest hugged me without me asking. It reminded me that walking the walk doesn't mean being perfect, it means being real about your struggles and pointing your kids toward grace. Anyone else wrestling with this?

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CChristopherNew Dad1w ago

I think a lot of us are struggling with this. Trying to be the patient, kind parent while also dealing with the stress of everything else. You're already aware of it which is huge. That's the first step to changing the pattern.

DDanny R.Regular1w ago

You're aware of it and that matters more than you think. My daughter's only a few months old but I already know I'm gonna have days like that. At least you're thinking about it.

CChristopherNew Dad1w ago

Man, I feel this. I did the same thing with spilled juice last week and hated how my son just went quiet. The apology afterwards helped, but you're not alone in that struggle.

SSean P.New Dad1w ago

These moments are rough but they're also teaching moments if you own them. The fact that you're reflecting on it shows your boys you're human and trying, which is huge.

JJustinNew Dad1w ago

The spilled milk situation is so relatable. I've been there and felt terrible after. What helped me was acknowledging it to my kids right after I calmed down and letting them see me apologize. It's actually teaching them something important about how to handle your own frustration.

BBrandonRegular1w ago

Bedtime has taught me a lot about patience and it sounds like you're already doing the hardest part - recognizing when you've lost it. That's more than a lot of guys do. Being frustrating doesn't mean you're failing.