Struggling to model Christ when work is crushing me | DadHQ

Struggling to model Christ when work is crushing me

3w ago1 min read

Guys I need some real talk. Been working 60 hour weeks and I come home exhausted. My kids want to play and my wife wants to talk about her day and all I want is to zone out with my phone. I know I'm supposed to be the spiritual leader of my household but I feel like a hypocrite preaching about patience and love when I'm snapping at everyone. How do you balance providing for your family with actually being present? I don't want to look back and realize I missed everything while grinding away.

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JJason T.New Dad3w ago

I get it brother. The 60 hour weeks are real. Here's what I learned though - your kids don't need you to be a superhero after work, they just need you to be their dad. Even if you're exhausted, that matters way more than having it all together.

RRyan M.Regular3w ago

Those first years are brutal, dude. I'm still figuring out how to show up as a dad when I'm running on empty. Maybe it's not about being perfect, but being honest with your family about why you're tired and then actually showing up when you say you will.

SStan D.Regular3w ago

Man I feel this hard. Between tournament weekends and work stress, I've been there. What helped me was picking one night a week to fully disconnect from work mode and just be present, even if it's just 30 minutes of real attention with the family. Small consistency beats big guilt.

CChris P.Regular3w ago

I feel this in my soul. Working nights here and by the time I'm home, I'm running on fumes. The guilt is real when they want to talk and you just want to collapse. How are you managing to stay present at all?

NNate B.Regular3w ago

This is the struggle for sure. I don't have all the answers but I know my faith keeps me grounded when work threatens to become my whole identity. Maybe look into whether your job actually requires those 60 hours or if it's just culture?

LLance K.Regular3w ago

Brother, I'm in this exact spot. 60 hours a week is brutal. What I've learned is even 15 minutes of real, focused time beats three hours of being physically there but mentally checked out. Quality over quantity is real.