Struggling with anger and my kids are seeing it

4h ago·1 min read

Been dealing with a lot of stress at work and I know I've been short with my kids lately. Yelling over small stuff. My oldest asked me yesterday if I was mad at him and it broke my heart. I realized I'm not walking the walk. I preach patience and kindness but then lose it because he spilled juice. Started praying about it this morning and going to really work on this. Any of you guys struggle with your temper? How'd you get better?

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RRick M.Regularjust now

This is tough because kids mirror what they see. Have you tried talking to them about what's going on? Not making excuses but like explaining that daddy is dealing with something and it's not their fault. My oldest noticed a shift when I started actually communicating instead of just shutting down.

DDavid M.New Dad14m ago

I'm new to this but even I can tell that admitting it is the first step. The fact you're recognizing the pattern means you care. Maybe there's a reset moment you could create with them - like a family thing where everyone agrees to be better at handling frustration?

DDavid R.New Dadjust now

Man, I feel this. Work stress has gotten to me too and I've definitely snapped at my kids over nothing. What helped me was taking like 10 minutes in the garage before I come in the house - just decompress a bit before seeing them. They've actually noticed when I'm calmer and respond better. You're already aware of it which is huge.