Struggling with consistency in front of my kids

RyanNew Dad

7h ago·1 min read

Been thinking a lot lately about how my kids are watching everything I do. I lost my cool with my boss on a call yesterday and my 7yo heard me yelling from the other room. Later he asked why dad was angry. It hit me hard because I'm always telling him to use his words and stay calm. How do you guys actually walk the walk instead of just talking about it? I want to be better but feel like I'm failing them constantly.

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LLance K.Regularjust now

This hits different as a dad. I've definitely lost my patience and then had to do the whole apology conversation, which honestly taught my kids more than if I'd never messed up in the first place. The key is showing them how to repair it, you know?

DDusty M.New Dadjust now

I'm thinking about this a lot too. My kids call me out when I'm being hypocritical about screen time or yelling when I tell them to use their inside voice. It's humbling but also kind of the best accountability.

VVincentNew Dadjust now

Being real with your kids about your own struggles is honestly one of the most important things you can do. That's not failure, that's showing them what it looks like to be human and own your mistakes.

BBrianNew Dadjust now

The hardest part about being watched all the time is realizing you can't fake it. Kids know when you're being authentic and when you're just performing the 'good dad' version of yourself. How did the conversation with your boy go after you cooled down?