My wife wants to get the kids more involved in church but honestly I've been questioning things lately. How do I lead them spiritually when I'm having doubts myself? Don't want to fake it for them but also don't want to mess up their foundation. Any other dads been through this?
I'm dealing with the same thing right now. Wife wants the kids in Sunday school, I'm not sure what I believe anymore. We've started having some real conversations about it instead of just fighting about it. Maybe that's the starting point - being honest with your wife about where you actually are instead of pretending for the kids.
The pressure to model faith when you're questioning it is real. For what it's worth, kids appreciate honesty more than perfection. You could talk to your wife about doing this together rather than her pushing and you resisting.
This is tough because your wife has good intentions but you can't fake faith for your kids. They pick up on it. Have you thought about exploring this together as a couple first before dragging the kids into something you're not sure about?
I've been there man. My kids started asking questions about why we go to church if I seemed unsure, and it made me realize I needed to figure out my own beliefs first. Maybe you and your wife can have a real conversation about what you both actually believe instead of just going through the motions?
I respect that you're being honest about this instead of just pretending. That takes guts. Maybe the best thing you can teach them right now is how to ask hard questions and think critically about what you believe in.
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You don't have to have it all figured out to be a good example for your kids. Honestly, showing them that faith is something worth questioning and struggling with is probably better than pretending you have all the answers. Have you talked to someone at your church about doubts?