What does leading spiritually actually look like in 2024?

I read all these articles about being a spiritual leader but honestly some of it feels out of touch. What does this actually mean in real life? Is it just praying with your family? Reading the Bible to them? How do you live it out when you're working 50 hours a week and your wife is handling most of the day to day parenting? Looking for practical wisdom from guys in the trenches.