Wife called me out for not leading spiritually

1w ago·1 min read

Had a tough conversation yesterday. She said I expect her to keep us grounded in faith but I'm not stepping up as the spiritual leader of our home. I've been defensive about it but she's right. I go to church, I believe, but I'm passive. Not initiating Bible study, not praying with intention, not setting the tone. It hurt to hear but it's true. Starting this week I'm taking that responsibility seriously. Anyone else been in this position and come out the other side?

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GGarrettNew Dad1w ago

This is one of those convos that stings but you need to hear it. What does spiritual leadership actually look like to you? Are you thinking church stuff or more like how you live day to day?

CChris M.Regular1w ago

Hard conversations are the best ones though. Sounds like your wife cares enough to tell you the truth instead of just resenting you quietly. What's your first step to actually lead on this?

PPhillip M.New Dad1w ago

Ouch but she's right. I had a similar conversation and it woke me up that my wife was basically doing all the spiritual heavy lifting for our family. Not cool on my part.

RRich B.Regular1w ago

This resonates. With three kids I realized I was expecting my wife to carry too much of the spiritual load while I just went along for the ride. Taking ownership made a real difference in our house.

MMark R.New Dad1w ago

That's tough but also brave of her to say it. She's right though - leadership doesn't mean having all the answers, just being willing to step up and try. Sounds like you're ready to actually do something about it now.