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Does anyone else get unreasonably angry at their kids' teachers sometimes?

Dec 10·1 min read

My 8yo's teacher sent home a note saying he's "not participating enough in class discussions." The kid literally talks non-stop at home about photosynthesis and sea creatures. I get that classroom dynamics are different but it just rubbed me the wrong way? Like, maybe he's an introvert? Maybe he processes things differently? idk I'm probably being defensive but it felt a little... judgmental. Anyone else feel this way or am I overreacting.

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Comments(5)

OOscar D.New DadDec 10

I'd just ask the teacher what she needs him to do specifically. like is it hand raising? speaking in group discussions? because "not participating enough" is vague and your kid might just be anxious about the format

NNate H.RegularDec 10

I used to get these notes and realized the teacher was expecting hands-up participation from a naturally quiet kid. Sometimes it's just a personality mismatch not a problem

RRon D.New DadDec 11

yeah teachers see like 25 kids in a room and your kid talking about sea creatures at home isn't the same as participation during circle time or whatever. they're different environments but that's frustrating

MMatt D.RegularDec 11

ugh this hits hard. my 7yo is apparently "shy in class" but will talk your ear off about dinosaurs at home. I think some kids just need different settings to feel comfortable

JJamal W.RegularDec 11

Some kids are just internal processors. That note would make me want to talk to the teacher about what KIND of participation they're looking for instead of just assuming it's a problem