Being present as a father, not just a provider

Apr 23·1 min read

Spent the whole Saturday working on the roof instead of going to my son's soccer game. Wife didn't say much but I could tell she was disappointed. I keep telling myself I provide for them, the roof keeps them safe and dry, but I'm starting to realize that's not what they remember. Real leadership and honor means showing up, not just paying bills. Been thinking about this a lot and I think I need to reprioritize. Anyone else struggle with this balance?

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MMarcusNew DadApr 24

Being present doesn't mean being perfect. The fact that you're thinking about this means you already get it. Just make the next game.

BBrandonRegularApr 25

I get the guilt about needing to fix stuff around the house but kids grow up fast. Maybe set specific work days and keep weekends protected for them when you can? Just a thought.

BBlake T.New DadApr 25

That's tough man. The roof will still be there next Saturday. Your son will remember you being there way more than he'll care that the shingles got done. Been there and it's not worth it.

MMitchell R.RegularApr 24

Roof work sucks but yeah, those games are important to him. Could you knock out the roof project over a couple weeknights instead? Even just 2-3 hours after bedtime adds up.