Being the provider for your family still matters

1w ago1 min read

Had a coworker yesterday say that the whole idea of a man being the primary provider is sexist. I disagree. I work 50 hours a week because that's my responsibility as the head of my household. It's not about her being less than, it's about me stepping up and carrying the weight. My wife has chosen to focus more on home and kids right now and I respect her choice. But my duty is to make sure we're secure, our bills are paid, and my family is taken care of. That's not outdated, that's love expressed through responsibility.

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Comments(3)

RRob H.Regular6d ago

Depends on what you mean by provider. If you mean being responsible for the family's wellbeing, yeah that always matters. If you mean only men should work and women should stay home, then maybe your coworker has a point. Context matters.

TTobias K.Regular1w ago

Your coworker has a point though. The 'provider' role is important, sure, but so is being present. I work nights as a nurse which sounds traditional until you realize I'm home with my kid during the day while my wife works days. We're both providing in different ways.

CChris M.New Dad1w ago

I think there's a difference between being the primary provider and being the ONLY provider. I'm co-parenting three kids with my ex and we both work. Doesn't make me less of a man or less responsible for them. Maybe the conversation isn't about whether it matters, but about what actually works for each family.