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Being the rock your family needs

4d ago1 min read

My wife has been stressed about her job and worried about money. Instead of burdening her with my own stress about work, I just handle things. Fixed the fence myself instead of calling someone. Cut the budget where I could. Picked up extra shifts. She doesn't need to know every problem, she needs to know her husband has it handled. That's leadership. That's what being a man means in your own home. Taking the weight so others don't have to carry it.

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DDannyRegular2d ago

Respect this perspective a lot. The rock thing gets twisted into 'never show weakness' but that's not what it means. It means showing up consistently, not that you're made of granite.

BBradRegular2d ago

Being the rock doesn't mean you don't get stressed, it just means you find your own way to deal with it. Good on you for recognizing that your wife needed some peace right now. Have you talked to anyone yourself or just pushing through?

VVincentRegular2d ago

That's real strength right there. A lot of guys would just dump their stress on their wife and call it honest communication. You're actually being a partner by carrying some of the weight. How long have you been doing this?

BBenNew Dad2d ago

Real talk, I've been trying to do this exact thing and it's exhausting. Talking to my wife about my own stress actually made her stress go down because she knew I wasn't secretly drowning. We're a team, not a one-man show.

RRyan K.New Dad3d ago

This is the kind of stuff that matters. Your kids are learning what a man actually does - he shows up, he listens, he handles his business without making it everyone else's problem.

TTony M.New Dad2d ago

This right here. Being the steady one doesn't mean you have to be silent. Your wife would probably feel better knowing you're in this with her, not just propping her up like some kind of emotional support robot.