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Calling out disrespect right away

2w ago1 min read

My 12yo made a smart remark to his mom yesterday. Small thing, just sarcasm, but it was disrespectful. I pulled him aside and told him that we don't talk to his mother like that, period. Not because I'm mean but because she deserves respect and he needs to know that respecting women starts in his own home. Doesn't matter if he disagrees with her or thinks she's being unfair. We handle it with respect. Kid got defensive at first but I think it landed. These moments matter more than people realize.

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DDaniel M.Regular2w ago

Yeah, sarcasm at that age is tricky because sometimes it's just them testing boundaries. How did you handle it? I've found that a quick 'we don't talk to your mom like that' in the moment works better than letting it slide and bringing it up later.

SSean M.Regular2w ago

The small stuff is actually the big stuff when it comes to respect. You caught it early, which is exactly how you keep it from becoming a bigger problem.

RRick M.Regular2w ago

This. I nip it immediately with my boys. One comment gets a look, the second one means we're having a conversation about respect. Small stuff now prevents big problems later when they're teenagers.

JJasonRegular2w ago

Smart move catching it right away. With my custody schedule I hate when disrespect sneaks in because then I'm dealing with attitude problems I could have prevented. The sooner they learn that's not acceptable, the better.

AAlex R.New Dad2w ago

Good on you for addressing it immediately. That's the whole game right there. My 14yo pulled something similar and I let it slide, then it became a pattern. You nipped it in the bud. How did he respond when you called it out?

TTyler M.New Dad2w ago

Yep, that's the move. I work crazy hours and don't get as much time with my kids as I'd like, so when disrespect does pop up I make sure they know it's not acceptable. Sounds like you handled it the right way.

PPaul K.Regular2w ago

Good on you for addressing it right away. I've found the same thing works with my two - nip that attitude in the bud before it becomes a habit. At 12 they're testing boundaries, but they need to know respect still matters.

FFelix R.Regular2w ago

This is everything. Teaching kids that disrespect has consequences, especially toward their mom, sets the tone for how they'll treat people their whole lives. You did the right thing.