Does anyone else feel like the old ways of raising kids actually worked?

1d ago·1 min read

I'm not talking about being harsh or anything, but my dad had clear rules, clear consequences, and he was consistent. I knew where I stood. Now everyone's so worried about hurting kids' feelings that nothing means anything. My boys know I love them but they also know I mean what I say. Seems like that combination produces better men. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I think there's something to it.

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MMason T.New Dad5h ago

There's definitely something to structure and consistency. My kids need to know where the boundaries are or they go nuts. But I think the difference with the old way is it was just rules and consequences without as much explanation. Now I try to have the rule, the consequence, AND help them understand the why. That combination hits different.

CChristopherNew Dad23h ago

Clear rules and clear consequences actually DO work. The problem with some of the old ways wasn't the structure, it was the lack of warmth that sometimes came with it. You can be firm AND connected to your kids at the same time. That's the sweet spot.

DDerekNew Dad19h ago

My dad was like that too. Respect, rules, you knew exactly what would happen if you messed up. I've tried to keep that but add a little more listening and less yelling. Seems to be working so far.