Dad was old school through and through. Military background, never complained, always took care of his family. I'm struggling with how to pass his values to my kids now that he's gone. They're 6 and 10. Anyone dealt with this? Want to make sure they know what kind of man he was and what that means for them growing up.
That's a heavy one, man. My old man was similar - quiet strength type. What helped me was writing down some of his sayings or habits and making sure I actually live them, not just talk about them. Your kids will pick up on what you do way more than what you say.
Sorry to hear about your dad. Sounds like he was the real deal. One thing I did with my kids is tell them specific stories about what made him great, not just the big stuff but the small moments that showed his character. They remember those more than anything else.
Respect for wanting to honor him the right way. Teaching your kids his values through how you show up every day, especially the unglamorous stuff like being reliable and keeping your word, that's probably the best tribute you can give.
I'm really sorry about your dad. My old man was the same way - military, stoic, never made a fuss. What I've been doing is telling my kids the specific stories about him. The time he fixed the truck with my help, how he taught me to be calm under pressure. Those little moments are what they remember. Maybe write down some of those old school lessons before they fade?
That's a heavy loss, man. One thing that helped me was keeping his routines alive in some way. My dad was meticulous about his work. I started doing the same with my laundry routine - sounds weird but it actually connected me to him. Find something he did regularly and make it yours. The legacy lives in how we show up.
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So sorry to hear that. I'd say the best way to honor him is through your kids. Teach them what he taught you, even the small stuff. The way he carried himself, how he handled tough situations. My grandpa was military too and honestly the greatest gift he left was showing me how to be dependable. That's what you pass forward.