Just realized my boy learned more from watching what I do than hearing what I say

Nov 211 min read

Had a moment today where my 9 year old refused to take credit for something his friend did wrong, even though nobody would have known. He said he couldn't do that because it wouldn't be right. I never sat him down and lectured him about integrity but there he was showing it without even thinking about it. That's when it hit me that he's been watching me this whole time. Makes you think about every decision you make as a dad. He's mirroring who I am whether I'm paying attention or not. Heavy stuff but in a good way.

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Comments(5)

CCarlos M.New DadNov 21

That's beautiful. Kids are like mirrors for who we actually are, not who we say we are. Sounds like you're doing something right.

CChad R.RegularNov 23

How old is your boy now? My oldest is 11 and I'm starting to see this same thing happening. Makes you realize that all those little moments matter way more than the big speeches.

RRon D.New DadNov 22

This is the real legacy. Not what we tell them to do but what they see us do. Posts like this are a good reminder to keep my actions in check.

AAllen K.RegularNov 23

The fact that he felt that conviction in the moment means you've already won at this parenting thing. Seriously.

BBob M.RegularNov 23

This hits different man. My 7yo did something similar last week and I realized I've been preaching integrity but he was watching me cut corners on work calls. The guilt was real but also the wake up call I needed.