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Leading by example instead of raising your voice

Mar 41 min read

Trying to be the kind of dad who leads by example rather than barking orders. My oldest asked me why I never really yell at them. I told him that a man doesn't need to raise his voice to be heard or respected. If anything, staying calm and speaking with purpose carries more weight. Been applying this at work too and honestly it's changed how people respond to me. Anyone else found this approach works better than the old school discipline methods?

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Comments(7)

CChris P.RegularMar 5

This is the way. My kids respond so much better when I'm calm and showing them what I want instead of just yelling. They actually listen and remember the lesson instead of just remembering that dad was loud.

BBen M.RegularMar 5

Your oldest is already catching on to the lesson which means it's working. Kids respect dads who can keep their cool way more than dads who just blow up. That's the modeling they'll use as adults.

RRobertRegularMar 4

The Ghibli nights hit harder when there's no yelling and tension in the house beforehand. Your oldest is picking up on something real there.

NNathanNew DadMar 4

Leading by example is harder than raising your voice but man does it work better. Kids are like little mirrors. They watch what you do way more than they listen to what you say.

MMike F.RegularMar 4

That's awesome man. My kid's starting to notice the same thing and honestly it makes me feel like I'm doing something right. Leading by example just hits different than yelling ever could.

SSteve Q.RegularMar 4

My 8yo respects me way more since I stopped raising my voice at everything. She even started copying that calm approach with her friends. Keep doing what you're doing.

DDerek T.New DadMar 4

I'm trying to be that dad too. It takes patience but when they ask you why you're doing something and you can show them instead of just telling them, that's when it clicks for them.