Leading by example when you feel like you're failing

20h ago·1 min read

Been a rough stretch at work and home. Lost my temper with the boys over something stupid last week. Sat them down the next morning and told them straight up that I was wrong, I apologized, and explained what was really bothering me. My oldest said 'thanks for admitting you messed up Dad.' That's when I realized that admitting weakness and taking responsibility is actually part of being a real man. Our fathers never did that and look how that turned out.

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Comments(5)

MMike R.New Dad20h ago

That's real man, sitting them down the next morning and owning it is exactly what they need to see. My boys respect me more when I admit I messed up than when I pretend I'm perfect.

DDavidNew Dad19h ago

Takes guts to do what you did. We lose it sometimes, especially when work's beating us down, but how you handle it after is what sticks with them.

CChris R.New Dad17h ago

Man I've been there. Rough weeks happen and sometimes our kids take the hit for it. The fact that you're thinking about it means you're already better than a lot of guys. What are you doing to reset?

RRob T.New Dad10h ago

Been rough at work too lately so I get it. Just make sure you circle back with the boys and let them know it wasn't about them. They bounce back quick if they know dad still loves them.

DDanielNew Dadjust now

You're going to have plenty more chances to get it right. One lost temper moment doesn't define you as a dad.