My father never taught me how to lead a family and I'm determined to be different

May 11 min read

Growing up my dad was emotionally absent. Great provider, paid the bills, but there was no real leadership in the home. My mom basically ran everything and he just checked out. Now I'm married with two kids and I've made it my mission to be a man who actually leads with purpose and intention. That doesn't mean being controlling or domineering - it means knowing my values, communicating them clearly, and modeling the behavior I want my family to respect. It's harder than I thought but it matters. Any other guys working to break generational patterns?

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AAlexRegularMay 2

What does leading your family look like for you day to day? I think a lot of us are figuring out what that means for our generation since we didn't get the roadmap.

MMarcusNew DadMay 1

I'm in your shoes right now. My dad was checked out emotionally too and it messed with me. I'm determined to be present and actually engage with my kids's lives in a way he never did. It's harder than just paying bills but it matters.

SSteveRegularMay 1

The fact that you're even thinking about this puts you miles ahead of your dad already. Leading a family starts with showing up and being emotionally available. Sounds like you're committed to that.