My generation doesn't know how to lead and it's sad

Apr 291 min read

I've been noticing a lot of younger dads don't seem to have any confidence in their authority at home. Their kids are running the show and they're just going along with it. I'm not saying be harsh but there's a way to be firm and loving at the same time. Kids need to know their father is the leader of the home, not their buddy. My boys know I love them but they also know when I give a direction I expect it to be followed without argument. There's something to the old way of doing things that we've lost. You can be a present, involved father AND be a leader.

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Comments(7)

JJoeRegularMay 1

What do you mean exactly by confidence in authority? Because wanting to be more collaborative with my kids instead of dictatorial feels like progress to me, not weakness.

JJosh M.RegularMay 1

I think it depends a lot on what you mean by authority. Setting boundaries and rules doesn't require yelling or being harsh. My kids respect me because I'm consistent, not because I'm tough.

EEvan M.New DadApr 30

I think you might be confusing confidence with style. Young dads lead, they just do it differently than we did. My kids respect me because I'm consistent and present, not because I'm the loudest voice in the room.

RRexRegularApr 30

Hard disagree. Leadership isn't about barking orders. It's about being present, setting clear expectations, and following through. Younger dads I know are actually doing pretty well at that stuff.

AAlexRegularApr 30

Respectfully disagree. My generation (I'm guessing we're similar ages) led differently because we had different options. Younger dads are finding their own way and honestly it seems to be working fine for them.

PPedroRegularApr 30

Leadership isn't about authority for authority's sake anymore. It's about raising kids who respect you and want to follow your example. That takes more actual leadership skill than just saying no.

KKevinRegularApr 30

I disagree with this take. Different doesn't mean worse. Younger dads are more engaged, more present, more willing to learn. That's not a lack of confidence, that's growth. My kids don't need me to bark orders, they need me to be involved.