Raising boys in a world that doesn't value manhood

3d ago1 min read

Anyone else feel like we're swimming upstream trying to teach our kids about real responsibility and integrity? Everything around them says be soft, be sensitive, avoid conflict. I'm not saying be a jerk but there's a difference between emotional intelligence and just being a weak pushover. I'm focusing on teaching mine to be strong but honorable. To lead by example, not by dominating. To stand up for what's right even when it costs you. This matters more than ever.

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CChris M.Regular1d ago

This resonates with me hard. We're trying to teach real values like work ethic, taking care of yourself, looking people in the eye, following through on what you say. Those things matter and they're not outdated just because the culture is changing.

JJosh M.Regular2d ago

I don't think it's about being strict so much as being clear. My boys know what I expect. They know what real looks like because they see it every day. That's not pressure, that's love.

KKyleRegular2d ago

Swimming upstream is the right way to describe it. But teaching my kids to be honest, work hard, and treat people right - that's never going to be wrong. The world will keep changing but integrity doesn't go out of style.

KKyle M.New Dad1d ago

I think about this constantly with my four kids. It's tough because society keeps shifting on what that even means anymore. But I do think teaching them to own their mistakes and help others is still solid ground to stand on.

NNathanNew Dad2d ago

Real talk - I'm raising boys too and I don't think it's about swimming upstream so much as it's about being clear on your values and sticking to them. My kids know I expect them to work hard and treat people with respect. That doesn't feel outdated to me.

AAdam R.New Dad3d ago

You're not alone in this. I've got three boys and two girls, and honestly the principles are the same across the board - accountability, integrity, hard work. Those aren't old fashioned, they're timeless.

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RRick M.New Dad1d ago

I feel this in my bones. Society tells boys to be soft about everything but real strength is taking responsibility for your actions and your family. We've got to model that for them even when it's not the easiest path. My boys know I show up, I work hard, and I own my stuff. That's what manhood looks like.