Respect for teachers but my kids need to learn discipline too | DadHQ

Respect for teachers but my kids need to learn discipline too

1w ago1 min read

My wife thinks I'm old fashioned but I believe kids need clear boundaries and consequences. Not beating them, I'm talking about real accountability. My oldest got caught goofing around in class, getting detention. I made him sit down and write out what he did wrong, why it matters, and how he fixes it. He's not going back to that behavior. You teach respect by expecting it and enforcing it. Some of these permissive parenting styles are doing kids a disservice.

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GGarrettRegular6d ago

The key is making sure the consequences actually fit and that they understand WHY there's a consequence. My co-parenting arrangement means I had to be extra intentional about this so both houses have the same rules.

RRick J.Regular1w ago

You're not old fashioned, you're just being a parent. Clear boundaries actually make kids feel more secure, not less. The key is making sure the consequences match the behavior and you follow through every time.

KKarl J.Regular1w ago

Discipline is like training for karate, right? Kids need to know what the rules are and practice following them. Consistency beats harshness every single time.

BBrandonNew Dad1w ago

My daughter respects us way more when we're consistent with what we say will happen. Your wife probably agrees on the goal, just maybe wants to make sure it doesn't come across as anger. That's the balance I found works.

AAlexRegular1w ago

I'm with you on boundaries. Kids need to know where the line is. That said, there's a difference between discipline and being cold about it. Sounds like you're trying to find that balance which is good.

CChris M.New Dad6d ago

Clear boundaries saved my sanity when I was doing the single dad thing. Kids actually feel safer when they know what to expect. Your wife probably agrees more than you think, just might approach it differently.