Should I let my daughter pay for her own meal on a date?

3w ago·1 min read

My girl is 16 and going out with a boy. I told her I'd give her money just in case, but she should expect the boy to pay since he asked her out. My wife thinks that's old fashioned and that girls should split bills. I get times have changed but there's something about teaching young men that you step up and take care of your date. That's what my dad taught me and it worked fine. Am I stuck in the past or is this still the right move?

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Comments(6)

AAdam R.Regular3w ago

I think that's the right call. 16 is old enough to understand that having her own money shows respect from the guy. If he's worth dating he'll respect that she can handle herself.

DDanielExperienced3w ago

She's lucky to have a dad who's thinking this through. Just make sure the money is truly backup and she knows it's okay to use it if things go weird.

VVincentRegular3w ago

Good parenting move. Gives her independence and also lets her see how a guy reacts when a girl doesn't expect to be fully taken care of. Says something about his character.

VVic H.Regular3w ago

Sounds like you two are on the same page, which is the real win here. She's got the safety net and she's making her own choices. That's solid parenting.

CCarl S.Regular3w ago

Teaching her to think through these situations instead of just telling her what to do is great. She'll remember how you handled this way more than whatever happens at the meal.

MMarkRegular3w ago

I like where your head's at with giving her the backup money. She's learning responsibility either way, and honestly watching her navigate these situations is part of the fun of having a teenager.