Standing firm on teaching my son to shake hands and look men in the eye

1w ago1 min read

Got some pushback from my wife's family about how strict I'm being on manners and etiquette with my 10 year old. They think I'm old fashioned making him practice his handshake and eye contact when meeting people. But I'm convinced that these small things matter. A firm handshake and looking someone in the eye says something about your character. These aren't just dusty traditions, they're about respect and integrity. My son is already standing taller because of it. Glad to see some of us still believe this stuff matters.

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Comments(6)

BBenNew Dad1w ago

There's nothing wrong with teaching kids basic etiquette. A good handshake and eye contact go a long way. That said, maybe find some middle ground with your wife's family? You're on the same team even if you disagree on how strict to be.

RRussell D.Regular1w ago

Marvel Wednesdays over here and I can tell you my son carries himself better when we focus on the little stuff like manners. You're doing the right thing, stick with it.

CCarl D.Regular1w ago

My daughter's only 8 but I'm already working on the same things with her. Manners and etiquette teach confidence, not just politeness. Good on you for holding the line.

CCarl S.Regular1w ago

A good handshake and eye contact never go out of style. You're teaching him confidence and respect, that's not old fashioned, that's solid parenting.

JJasonNew Dad1w ago

Teaching kids good manners is solid parenting. Eye contact and a firm handshake show respect and confidence. Your wife's family might think it's old-fashioned but these are skills that actually matter in life.

VVincentRegular1w ago

The handshake thing is great, definitely teach it. But how old is he? Context matters. If he's 3, it's fine to chill. If he's 8 or 9, yeah absolutely drill these habits in.