Standing your ground as a father

Getting pushback from family about how I'm raising my kids. My mom thinks I'm too hard on them about respect and manners. Society these days seems to think kids should just do whatever they want and parents should be their friends. But I believe a father should be a leader in his home, set boundaries, and hold his kids accountable. I'm not talking about being harsh, I'm talking about actually parenting. Am I wrong for sticking to old fashioned values? Other guys feeling this pressure too?