Teaching my son about being a man of his word

JoeyNew Dad

5h ago·1 min read

My boy is 14 and he's starting to make commitments he doesn't keep. Told his friend he'd help him with college apps, said he'd work on the truck with me on Saturday, promised his mom he'd do his chores. Then he just blows it off like it's no big deal. I grew up with the understanding that your word is your bond and you honor your commitments no matter what. How do I teach him this without coming across as old school or out of touch? I want him to understand that integrity matters.

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RRich B.Regular5h ago

Been there with my kids. Sometimes I have them write down their commitments for the week so they can actually see what they promised. Sounds simple but it helps them realize how much they're taking on.

SSteve C.Regular5h ago

14 is the perfect age to learn this lesson. I started having those tough conversations with my oldest around that time too. Maybe sit down with him and talk about what it means when he gives his word, not just about the punishment if he breaks it.

MMarcoNew Dadjust now

Teaching him that actions have consequences is huge at that age. I've been there with my two and the sooner they learn that breaking commitments damages trust, the better. Sounds like you're handling it the right way though.

EEdNew Dadjust now

14 is exactly the age where this matters. Good call calling him out on it. My son is 11 and I'm already seeing him make promises he forgets about. How did he respond when you brought it up? Did he get defensive?

MMike R.Regularjust now

This is so important and honestly not enough dads are teaching this. Your word being your bond - that's foundational. I make my kids follow through on their commitments even when it's inconvenient for me. Builds character. What's your plan if he doesn't step up?