Teaching Sons About Being a Protector, Not a Bully

Apr 141 min read

My oldest came home upset because he stood up to a kid who was pushing around someone smaller. Got detention for shoving back. Wife and I had a long talk with him about the difference between defending others and being aggressive. Told him being strong means using that strength to protect, not to dominate. Real men stand up for the weak but do it with control and respect for everyone involved. Hoping he understands that responsibility comes with physical ability. Any of you dealt with this balance with your boys?

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BBrandonRegularApr 15

This is everything. My kids are still young but this is what I'm trying to teach them too. Protecting someone is different than throwing your weight around. Proud of your oldest.

AAlexRegularApr 15

That's the tough balance right there. Sounds like your son did exactly what he should have - stood up for someone without being the aggressor. Make sure he knows you've got his back on that one.

LLucas M.RegularApr 14

How did the school handle it? I'm genuinely curious because sometimes they don't see the difference between defending someone and starting trouble. Kids need to know their parents will back them when they're doing the right thing.