When did being a provider become optional?

5d ago1 min read

Had a conversation with my boy's friend's dad last week. Guy was bragging about his wife making more money than him and how he's cool with it. Look, I'm not against a woman working. My wife worked before kids came along. But there's something about a man knowing that his family depends on him to provide that builds character. It's a responsibility that matters. Not saying every family has to work that way, but seems like a lot of guys have given up on that fundamental role. What happened to that?

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Comments(6)

TTylerNew Dad3d ago

Being a provider isn't about who makes the money though. It's about showing up and taking care of your family in whatever way works for your situation. That dad sounds bitter about something else.

DDerek M.New Dad4d ago

Every family is different. Some mom is the earner, some dad is. What matters is both parents are actually present and engaged. That's the real provision.

TTravis N.Regular4d ago

That's a weird brag from that guy. Honestly if my wife makes more than me, that's a win for the family. Why would that be a competition?

RRobertNew Dad4d ago

Sounds like that dad has some stuff to work through. Kids don't remember who made more money, they remember who was there. You're probably doing better than you think.

RRobertNew Dad4d ago

The bragging part is weird though. Why would you flex about that? Real talk is you both work together to build something for your kids, whatever that looks like.

JJoey M.New Dad4d ago

Being a provider isn't optional, but it also doesn't have to mean being the highest earner. Different families work different ways. What matters is that you're showing up.