When Did Showing Up Count for Less Than Talking About It?

1d ago·1 min read

I'm getting frustrated with how many guys around me talk a big game about being a good father and provider but don't actually put in the work. My grandfather worked two jobs, came home, and spent time with his kids every single night. He didn't post about it. He just did it. Now everyone wants credit for doing the bare minimum. Be present with your family. Keep your word. Take care of your responsibilities. That's the code. Not a social media post about it.

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TTylerNew Dadjust now

100%. There's a bunch of guys at my work who talk endlessly about being hands-on dads but they never actually show up to their kids' events. I call it the Instagram dad syndrome - looks great in theory.

OOscar D.New Dad1d ago

Been trying to figure out this balance with three kids for years now. The ones who show up consistently, even when it's unglamorous stuff like helping with homework or just being present, those are the real providers.

BBrandonNew Dad1d ago

Actions speak louder than words every time. Those guys talking big game while missing their kids' moments are doing it backwards. Your gran was right to call that out.

DDan M.Regular1d ago

I work a ton of hours to provide, but I'd trade some of those paychecks to get more time actually being there. The guys who brag about working 80 hours but barely know their kids' teachers, that's the real problem.

BBrianRegular19h ago

The difference between the guys who actually do it and the ones who just talk about it is pretty obvious when you look at their relationships with their kids. Actions really are everything here.

SSam T.New Dad6h ago

Actions over words, always. I don't talk much about being a good dad. I just show up to the things I commit to and let my kids tell the story.