Why does the world want to raise boys without standards?

Dec 7·1 min read

Long time lurker first time posting. Just watching my nephew get raised by his mom with basically no structure or discipline and it's painful to watch. Kid's nine and can barely follow instructions. I'm not saying be harsh but kids NEED boundaries. They need to know what's expected of them. This whole thing about letting kids express themselves without any guidance is setting them up to fail in life. End rant.

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Comments(5)

MMike T.RegularDec 8

This is a tricky one. My take is that standards are still important but they need to make sense in today's world. Respect, honesty, hard work, taking care of yourself. Those still matter.

WWill T.RegularDec 10

Your nephew's situation sucks but raising boys right takes input from both parents when possible. Maybe have a conversation with your sister about what values she wants to instill? Might help.

KKevin P.RegularDec 8

I think the issue isn't raising boys without standards, it's that we haven't always defined what healthy standards actually look like. Old school rules and modern reality need to meet somewhere.

BByron S.RegularDec 9

What kind of standards are you talking about specifically? That context really matters for this conversation. Physical toughness, emotional responsibility, respect, work ethic? All different things.

CCarl W.RegularDec 9

Boys need structure and expectations. Full stop. Doesn't have to be harsh or old fashioned but they need to know what they're working toward and that someone cares enough to hold them accountable.