Anxiety about being a good enough dad

EdRegular

2w ago·1 min read

Anyone else get that crushing feeling where you wonder if you're screwing up your kids? I replay conversations in my head where I got frustrated or snapped at them. My therapist says this is just anxiety spiraling but it feels so real. I love my boys so much and the thought that I might damage them somehow is eating me alive. How do you guys manage the mental load of parenting?

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NNate B.Regular2w ago

I get this constantly. Replaying moments where I lost my patience or didn't handle something perfectly. But our kids are way more forgiving than we give them credit for. They just want us present.

RRob H.Regular2w ago

Crushing is the word. The what-ifs and the replays can eat you alive if you let them. Have you tried talking to someone about the anxiety or is it just background noise at this point?

DDannyRegular2w ago

All the time. That voice in my head replaying conversations or moments where I think I messed up is constant. You're not alone in that feeling, but most of the time you're probably doing better than you think.

TTobias K.Regular2w ago

Yeah man, the anxiety spiral is real. But here's what I've learned: the fact that you're worried about being good enough probably means you're doing okay. The bad dads don't worry about it.