Anxiety about being the only one who can't figure things out

Mar 7·1 min read

My wife seems to have it all together. Works, manages the house, remembers every appointment, never seems stressed. I'm over here losing my mind about whether I packed enough snacks for soccer practice. Started thinking maybe there's something wrong with me that the other dads don't have. Talked to my therapist about this and she said it's comparing my insides to everyone else's outsides. Trying to believe that.

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KKevin M.RegularMar 9

This hits different when you're co-parenting. I used to stress about all the stuff I was forgetting on my weekends with the kids. Realized pretty quick that comparing myself to their mom wasn't helping anyone. We're just different. She's the planner, I'm more the 'let's see what happens' guy. Both have value.

LLance K.RegularMar 7

Have you talked to your wife about how you're feeling? Because a lot of times it seems like someone has it all together when really they're stressed about different things. My partner used to think I was chill about everything until I had a breakdown about work stuff she never even knew was bugging me.

RRyanNew DadMar 8

Man, I felt this in my soul. My wife remembers our daughter's pediatrician appointment before I even know it's coming. I've learned to just accept that we have different strengths. She's better at the mental load stuff, I'm the one who remembers to pack snacks for everything. Took me a while to stop feeling bad about it.