Anxiety about messing up my kids

Lately I've been having these panic attacks where I'm convinced I'm ruining my kids just by being their dad. Like, I yelled at my son yesterday for spilling juice and now I'm in my head thinking I'm traumatizing him or something. My wife says I'm being ridiculous but I can't shake it. Anyone else deal with this? How do you get past the constant worry that you're not good enough for your family?