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Anyone else feel like a failure when you lose your temper with your kids

Mar 8·1 min read

I yelled at my son yesterday over spilled juice. Just completely lost it for like 30 seconds. He got quiet and his eyes got all watery and I immediately felt like absolute garbage. I apologized and we talked it out but I can't stop replaying it in my head. How do you guys deal with the guilt and shame? I don't want my kids to remember me as the angry dad.

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KKeithNew DadMar 8

The fact that you feel bad about it means you're not a failure. I've yelled plenty. I apologize to my kids after and we move on. They remember that you're sorry way more than they remember the yelling.

AAlexRegularMar 8

This guilt spiral is something I struggle with too. But one outburst doesn't define you as a parent. What matters is what you do after. Model accountability and your son will learn that too.

CChris P.RegularMar 9

You're not a failure. You lost it for 30 seconds over spilled juice in the middle of what I'm guessing was a busy morning. That's not failure, that's being human. How did he react after?

MManuelRegular3w ago

I've been there. The guilt after is almost worse than the moment itself. Talk to him about it, explain you had a bad moment, and move forward. Kids are surprisingly forgiving.